|For Someone Else|
If you are in crisis or need immediate help, dial 911
How to Help
How to help someone going through a mental health crisis
(Source: Government of Western Australia, Mental Health Commission)
- Evaluate the situation. If you feel there is a danger to any person, call 911 and mention that there is a mental health emergency.
- Remain courteous and non threatening, but be honest and direct. Use a calm, reassuring voice.
- Have another family member secure any potential weapons, such as kitchen knives, baseball bats, etc.
- Listen to the person in a non judgmental way.
- Avoid confrontation at all costs – be prepared to “agree to differ” with the person’s perspective
- If your relative is seeing, hearing or feeling things that are not real, do not argue, deny or reason with him at this time. Instead, assure them that you love them, understand that what they are experiencing is real to them, and that you want to help them.
- Clarify and address what the person sees as the major issues first (not what you, the helper, see as the major concerns).
- Do not attempt to manhandle the person, except to prevent serious assault or suicide attempts.
- Encourage / assist person to receive professional mental health help.
- Have the family member’s medical information on hand. Have with you written information about the family member’s diagnosis, medications, and the specific event or behavior that caused you concern. It may be useful to have several copies to give to the police and to mental health professionals.
- If the person becomes extremely violent and you feel in danger, leave the premises.
- Finally, if the incident was traumatic for you, or you feel anxious or distressed, discuss these issues with a friend or a professional service.
How do I know if it’s an Emergency?
The situation is an emergency when your family member or loved one is:
What should you do in an Emergency?
(source: NAMI San Francisco)
Control Yourself – Don’t shout into the phone or at arriving officers or medical professionals. They can’t understand you if you shout.
Be Precise – Be ready to give concrete examples of the dangerous behaviors and to support your contention that the situation is dangerous. For example, say, “My daughter pulled a knife” as opposed to “My daughter wants to kill me.”
State over the phone the following information and be ready to repeat it to arriving police officers and/or medical professionals:
- Your name.
- Your address.
- Family member’s name.
- Your relationship.
- That the person is mentally ill and give the diagnosis.
- State whether medications are being used, whether it was stopped and when was the last time the meds were taken.
- Describe what your family member is doing now.
- Say whether you feel threatened.
- Say whether your family member is hearing voices or fears someone.
- Say whether a weapon is in the house — to minimize further agitation, remove any guns from the house before the police arrive.
- Say where inside the house is your family member.
- Say whether there is a history of violence.
Until professionals arrive, you must STAY CALM and:
- Be polite, respectful, reassuring, low-key and direct with your family member.
- Maintain on-going communication directly with the person and do not include others in side conversations.
- Do not try to trick or deceive your family member.
- Avoid immediately moving in close or touching the person unless necessary.
- Remove all objects with which a person may do harm to self or others.
When professionals arrive:
- Have all the lights on inside the house.
- Identify yourself.
- Carry nothing in your hands especially coming outside to meet them, in which case walk, don’t run to meet them.
- Don’t ramble.
- Be prepared to repeat the information you gave over the phone.
- State whether there is a history of suicide attempts.
- State whether your family member is violent or delusional.
- Have treating psychiatrist’s phone number handy.
Diffusing Family Situations
Strategies for Diffusing Family Situations
(Source: NAMI Santa Cruz)