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Losing a loved one to suicide is often painful, confusing, and unexpected, and it is an emotional process unique to the survivor. The grieving process looks different for everyone, but if you have lost someone to suicide, below are some resources that include personal testimonies, handbooks about grief, and information on what it means to be a loss survivor. Please take a moment to look through these resources and learn about ways to cope with and understand your grieving process.
|Coping with Loss and Grief After Suicide from SAVE:|
- Know that you can survive, even if you feel you can’t.
- You are not going crazy; you’re grieving.
- Feelings of guilt, confusion, anger, and fear are common responses to grief.
- You may experience thoughts of suicide. This is common. It doesn’t mean you’ll act on those thoughts.
- Forgetfulness is a common, but temporary side effect.
- Keep asking “why” until you no longer need to ask.
- Healing takes time.
- Grief has no predictable pattern or timetable. Each person and each situation is unique.
- Delay making major decisions if possible.
- Remember even setbacks are a kind of progress.
- Be patient with yourself. Seek out people who are willing to listen and who understand your need to be silent.
- Give yourself permission to seek professional help.
- Avoid people who try to tell you what to feel and how to feel it
- Find a support group for survivors (see next tab)
SOS: A Handbook for Survivors of Suicide
Available in Spanish
This is a brief handbook written by someone who is a survivor himself. It is intended to help people who have experienced a loss by suicide cope with their emotions and questions.
Suicide: Coping with the Loss of a Friend or Loved One
This is a brief guide to understanding and coping with emotions and questions that arise from losing a friend or loved one to suicide. Includes advice for survivors from survivors, recommendations for how to deal with grief, anger and other emotions related to loss, questions and answers about suicide suggestions for how to talk to children and others about suicide loss and resources for additional information.
After a Suicide: Recommendations for Religious Services and Other Public Memorial Observances
This booklet helps community and faith leaders plan memorial observances and provide support to survivors.
Fact Sheets, Important Information About Loss, & More
- Suicide Loss Survivors by the American Association of Suicidology
- Survivors of Suicide Fact Sheet
- A survivor of suicide loss is a family member or friend of a person who died by suicide.
- Coping with Suicide Loss from the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
- Practical Information for Immediately After a Loss
- This brief guide gives practical information to help survivors of suicide loss get through the first few days.
- Taking Care of Yourself
- This brief guide answers questions survivors of suicide loss might have about what emotions to expect and how to make self care a priority.
- The 5 Stages of Grief on Wikipedia
- The Serenity Prayer on Wikipedia
A message from a loss survivor:
“Some of the most influential things which helped me through my mother’s suicide were learning about the stages of grief, The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund J. Bourne, the powerful message in the Serenity Prayer, and writing letters to my mother.”
- For Attempt Survivors from the American Association of Suicidology
- Mental Health Channel
- A FREE online mental wellness channel for every viewer
- Reasons to Go On Living
- Stories of people who have attempted or seriously contemplated suicide but now want to go on living
- Talking About Suicide
- 60 interviews with attempt survivors
- What Happens Now? A project by the American Association of Suicidology
- The “S” Word Documentary June 16, 2016
Suicide Support Groups
Austin Support Groups
Austin Survivors of Suicide
St. David’s North Austin Medical Center
2221 North Mopac Expressway
Austin, TX 78758
Contact: Linda Davis
Enter at any entrance and go to the 2nd floor Room 2-C behind the chapel
Meeting Times: bimonthly; 1st and 3rd Tuesday of every month at 6:30pm
My Healing Place
2413 Greenlawn Pkwy, Austin, TX 78757
Contact: Khris Ford, Director (512) 472-7878
Meeting Times: bimonthly, 1st and 3rd Tuesdays of every month at 7pm
Facilitator: Mental health professional
Charge: Fee will be determined at intake
All new individuals must schedule an intake/orientation prior to their first group meeting.
Survivors of Suicide
Christi Center Annex
2306 Hancock Drive
Austin, TX 78756
Meeting Times: weekly, every Tuesday at 6:30-8:00pm
Central Texas Support Groups
Christi Center – Williamson County
Georgetown Community Resource Center
805 W. University
Georgetown, TX 78626
Meeting Times: bimonthly, 2nd and 4th Monday of every month at 7-9pm
Survivors of Suicide Greater Fort Hood
Cedar Crest Hospital
9426, 3500 N I-35 Frontage Rd.
Belton, TX 76513
Contacts: Janet Sutton (254) 718-9502
Clare Tobon (708) 870-2817
Meeting Times: 1st Saturday of the month at 9am
Survivors of Suicide – San Marcos, TX
CTMC Hospice Care Office
1515 I-H 35 North
San Marcos, TX 78666
Contact: Murray Kast (512) 754-0322
Meeting Times: 1st and 3rd Monday of every month at 6:30 pm (First meeting is on Mon. 8/6/18)
Facilitator: Mental health professional
Find Texas Support Groups: American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
National Empowerment Center Warm Lines
Greater Tarrant County Warmline 1-817-546-7806
Recommended Reading Lists
- Austin Reading List– Survivors of Suicide
- Searchable Library– Suicide Prevention Resource Center
- Recommended Reading– American Association of Suicidology
- Reading Lists– Action Alliance for Suicide Prevention and Suicide.org
- Suicide and Life-Threatening Behavior- American Association of Suicidology’s official journal
- Reading List– Suicide Awareness Voices of Education
Suicide: Survivors – A Guide For Those Left Behind by Adina Wrobleski
“Suicide: Survivors is a wonderful book published on suicide and suicide grief. The author, Adina Wrobleski, was the original founder of SAVE, and an expert on suicide. She has spent many years studying the subject after her daughter, Lynn, died by suicide in the late 1970’s. Reading this book is a good “first step” for someone beginning the arduous journey of trying to work through suicide grief.” –family member review. This book can be ordered directly from SAVE.
Links of Interest
|The Way Forward Full report by the Suicide Attempt Survivors Task Force with an extensive list of resources starting on page 77: websites, books, support groups, and therapies.|